It is only natural for your divorce case to play a central role in your life. However, there is a point at which a client can become so obsessed about the case that he/she cannot function in the normal daily activities of life. This is not only emotionally and physically damaging to the client, but it may also interfere with ability of the client’s attorney to be an effective advocate.
Here are tips to help you maintain your perspective. These tips apply to anyone going through a divorce irrespective of age or gender.
1. The overall message is to try to maintain balance in your life.
2. If you own your own business or professional practice or you are employed, your work-day will probably give you a chance to get away from thinking about your divorce. Use that opportunity. Schedule appointments with your attorney at a time, which is the least disruptive to your work schedule. Keep the divorce out of the work-place.
3. If you have been a stay-at-home spouse, now is the time to establish a daily schedule for yourself. The schedule should not allow you to spend more than one hour per day discussing or dealing with your divorce, except, of course, when more time is absolutely necessary (i.e. attending a court hearing). Stick to your schedule.
4. If you and your spouse are communicating, keep the telephone calls, text messages and emails short. Do not discuss your case with your spouse. The emotional turmoil, which results from discussing the case with your spouse, usually increases your legal costs if you feel compelled to call your attorney about the discussion.
5. Exercise daily, limit your alcohol intake and get as much rest as possible.
6. Distract yourself with positive people and activities. Find a new hobby, go out with friends, watch upbeat movies or do anything else you love.
7. Take up meditation or yoga to free your mind, body and spirit.
8. Get professional counseling if you need it.